If you’ve ever talked to your mother, aunties, or even scrolled through parenting forums, you’ve probably heard all sorts of advice about confinement—some comforting, some confusing, and some that make you wonder, “Is this really necessary?” Confinement, often rooted in cultural tradition, is meant to help new mothers recover after childbirth. While many of these practices have been passed down with love and good intentions, not everything stands up to what we now know through modern science. In fact, some common beliefs might do more harm than good—or simply add unnecessary stress during a time when rest and support are what you really need.
Follow us through this list of some of the most common confinement myths, clear up what’s true (and what’s not), and hopefully make this whole journey feel a little less overwhelming. Whether you’re sticking to tradition or doing things your own way, you deserve to feel confident and cared for every step of the way.
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Myth #1: “No plain water allowed – only herbal teas or alcohol”
What You’ve Heard:
This is a belief deeply rooted in many East Asian confinement traditions. After childbirth, the body is thought to be in a fragile, ‘cold’ state, needing warmth to heal properly. So warm herbal drinks like red date tea and ginger tonics are encouraged—while plain water is often avoided, and rice wine is sometimes even recommended for mothers to get rid of bloatedness.
The Truth:
Hydration is paramount, especially during the postpartum period. Drinking adequate amounts of water supports milk production, aids in digestion, and helps the body eliminate excess fluids retained during pregnancy. While herbal teas can be enjoyed in moderation, they shouldn't replace water. Additionally, alcohol can pass into breast milk and may affect your baby's development. It's best to enjoy herbal drinks occasionally and prioritize water for hydration.
Why It Matters:
Skipping water can slow down your recovery. Dehydration leads to fatigue, headaches, constipation, and even low milk supply. When you’re already running on little sleep, the last thing you need is something making it harder to feel like yourself again. On the flip side, proper hydration keeps your body working smoothly, keeping you well poised to begin your motherhood journey.
Keep a water bottle nearby at all times, either next to your bed, your feeding chair, or in your diaper bag. If you’re craving warmth, sip on warm water with a slice of ginger or lemon. It gives that cozy, comforting feeling without ditching the hydration your body actually needs.
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Myth #2: “No showering, no fans or air-conditioning, no going out”
What You’ve Heard:
If you grew up in an East Asian household, you’ve probably heard this one more than once. The idea is that after childbirth, your body is vulnerable to cold air, wind, and moisture. The fear? That exposure to any of these might settle into your joints and cause lifelong aches or illnesses like arthritis.
The Truth:
What your body truly needs after childbirth is cleanliness, comfort, and a sense of calm. Warm showers can be incredibly beneficial. They help cleanse the body, soothe sore muscles, and reduce the risk of infection. In a humid climate like Singapore’s, using air-conditioning or a fan isn’t just acceptable—it can actually prevent heat rash and help regulate your body temperature, especially when you’re already dealing with postpartum sweats or breastfeeding.
Spending a little time outside can also help boost your mental health. Exposure to natural light helps regulate sleep, and even a short walk can lift your mood and reduce feelings of confinement or isolation.
Why It Matters:
Neglecting hygiene or staying in an overly warm, unventilated space can make recovery more uncomfortable than it needs to be. Feeling clean and cool helps you rest better and stay more in tune with your body’s healing process. Listen to your body for optimal physical comfort.
Myth #3: “Strict bed rest and no visitors”
What You’ve Heard:
This advice is often given with the best intentions. In many traditional confinement practices, the focus is on creating a quiet, undisturbed space for the new mother to heal. Limiting movement and social contact is seen as a way to conserve energy and prevent further strain on the body.
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The Truth:
While rest is vital, prolonged bed rest can lead to complications like blood clots and muscle weakness. Gentle movements and light activities can enhance circulation and promote healing. Simultaneously, social interactions, when positive, can uplift your spirits and provide emotional support. It also gives you a break from the solitude and serves as a reminder that you’re not in this alone!
Why It Matters:
Physical activity and emotional connection are key parts of postpartum healing. Moving your body encourages better recovery, and meaningful social interactions can reduce stress and feelings of isolation. When both are kept in balance, they can ease the mental and physical challenges of early motherhood.
Incorporate short walks, engage in light activities, and welcome supportive visitors to maintain a healthy balance.
Myth #4: “No reading, crying or emotional expression allowed”
What You’ve Heard:
This belief reflects traditional ideas linking physical health to emotional balance, cautioning new mothers against engaging in activities thought to strain the body or spirit during the vulnerable confinement period.
The Truth:
Experiencing heightened emotions after childbirth is natural and expected due to hormonal fluctuations and the significant life transition of becoming a mother. Expressing your feelings—whether through crying, reading, journaling, or talking—can be a healthy way to process stress and emotions. Suppressing these feelings, on the other hand, may increase anxiety and contribute to postpartum mental health challenges.
Why It Matters:
Emotional well-being is just as critical as physical recovery. Allowing yourself space to feel and express emotions promotes mental clarity, reduces stress, and supports overall healing during the postpartum period.
To help regulate your emotions, engage in activities that bring you comfort, whether it's reading, writing, or simply talking to a loved one.
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Final Thoughts
Confinement is a time for healing, bonding, and self-care. It's an opportunity to nurture your body and mind as you transition into motherhood. While traditions offer guidance, it's essential to approach them with an open mind and a focus on what truly supports your well-being. Remember, your journey is unique, and it's okay to adapt practices that resonate with you. Embrace this period with confidence, knowing that your health and happiness are paramount.
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This article was informed by resources from the following:
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Gleneagles Hospital – 8 Confinement Myths Debunked
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Health Hub – Confinement Practices and Myths
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Thomson Medical – Top 3 Confinement Myths